Find Out The Causes Of Borderline Personality Disorder Abandonment

Is Borderline Personality Disorder Abandonment a mystery to you and trying to understand its causing factors?

To begin with, BPD is a mental disorder which means that it is determined by the unhelpful ways we see and interpret ourselves and others.

And much of these perception patterns are learned from significant other persons like our parents, caregivers, teachers, lovers, friends, or superiors.

We are mostly unaware of these perception patterns because we learn them unconsciously from others.

This also means by the way that they can be replaced through the same process of learning and habit creation.

Now let's move on to the causing reasons of borderline personality disorder abandonment.

In BPD, probably the most central motive concerning its causes is represented by certain invalidating early life encounters.

When we born we come to this world with a few basic emotional and mental needs which nature made us to rely on our parents or caregivers to be fulfilled.

Such needs are care, love, affection, respect, and bonding.

Now not all of us were born in ideal families, so when these needs are not met for long time periods, the child concludes unconsciously that he or she is an unworthy person and it is very possible for others to act the same way with him as his/her parents or caregivers.

Leading to the feeling of abandonment, which is actually an abandonment of his/her emotional and mental needs.

So since this abandonment appeared in a relationship with significant people, it will manifest when relating and interacting with other significant ones.

For example, a BPD with abandonment fear will be needy and submissive in one moment, than furious, abusive, and rejecting the next.

Why someone who is afraid of being abandoned will behave in ways that will make others do just that?

The reason is that BPDs are extremely sensitive to any little things, acts, and cues that may indicate abandonment from others. So when in the sufferer's mind this becomes a certainty, even if in reality it isn't, they are facts which confirm his/her reasons to be afraid of being abandoned.

Which is unbearable, thus the quick mood shifts and impulsive behaviors.

Since usually the conclusion of abandonment is not sustained in reality, it means that the tendency to draw such conclusions is acquired through learning. And it can be replaced with new healthy and helpful tendencies through learning and repetition.

As an example, next time when you will perceive abandonment or punishment from a dear person of yours, wait for a moment and try analyzing if your conclusion is sustained in the outside reality. You will most probably discover that the other one was trying to make a point or to discuss something with you.

Learn to see things from others' perspective as well and you will soon discover that not everyone is trying to harm you.

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