Are you struggling with Avoidant symptoms from Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD?
This avoidance stems from the powerful fear BPD sufferers feel from the perception of being abandoned or punished by others. These symptoms usually come together with negative self-attitudes which get triggered in certain circumstances.
Such self-attitudes and perceptions can lead one to an array of emotions like anxiety, shame, or anger, which in turn will be tried to be avoided in order to ease on the distress they bring along. Such a strategy could bear quick results on the short run, however it will usually dial up the fear and angry reaction afterwards, spinning one into a vicious cycle.
Thus you need to adopt new strategies which can render long-term results in order to ease on your avoidant tendency and borderline personality.
The first strategy you should try out is to face your fears with the next occasion because this is going to help you to come up with new ways of perceiving reality. In such situations our brain triggers an in-built mechanism called habituation which helps us get used with previously fearfully perceived stimuli.
With the next occasion to arise try to stop the manifestations of your emotions and just watch closely how things evolve. This could be challenging at the beginning since you were used to act instantly on your emotions, however you should really try this out since it has the potential of betterment for you. Consequently ask yourself if the fear you are feeling is based on reality or not? In other words, are you having realistic reasons to be afraid of being abandoned?
If you will find this step difficult, try to think for a moment what would your life be without this fear? How much more happier and how your relationships would be if you would liberate from this anguish and anxiety? Take in your hands the destiny of your life and be your boss, not your own emotional slave!
The second strategy you can try in order to overcome the avoidant attitudes and borderline personality is to find new ways of seeing the world instead of the dichotomous black and white pattern. It might be true that this thinking style was induced to you by your parents or entourage. Whichever your case, try to remember that the world we live in is rarely only black and white, and most of the times has a lot of "gray" shadows in it.
If you'll find this difficult at the beginning, look to persevere in your endeavor because your short and long term benefits will exceed by far your present struggle and anger.
The third strategy you should implement in your daily life is comprised by the breathing exercises combined with meditation. This exercise liberates all the stress and tension accumulated during the day, helping you to relax and calm down your mind and body. You will also discover hidden powers and energies within you to help you through the daily challenges. Also a calm and relaxed mind is significantly less prone to think in black and white only and is more opened to search for new ways of seeing and perceiving the world around. Try to keep you at doing this exercise at least once every day and, if done correctly, you should see improvements from day one in your avoidant attitudes and borderline personality.
And by the way, in order to overcome avoidance and borderline personality you should download my free ebook titled " Surviving The Hellhole ". It is packed with vital facts about BPD, as well as with free tips and strategies you can use right away to ease on your personality disorder.
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