Personality Disorders and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse

There is a problem with the term "personality disorder" - used to lump everyone with a personality disorder together with the same symptoms, like they're all the same- all malignant, dangerous and untreatable. They are not.

Narcissists make horrible parents because of their lack of empathy. And then, it's on a spectrum. Our culture fosters 'narcissism' in the general, still functional, manner found in most Americans. Most people think of themselves before others, most people want and expect money, fame, and possessions. They just fall short of actively hurting others to get money, fame, and possessions. The far end of the spectrum is the sociopath, the bad guy on so many TV shows. Survivors of child abuse were often raised by parents who are malignant narcissists or sociopaths.

People diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder are highly dramatic and emotional, but capable of having empathy. They may be too caught up in their own problems to show this empathy often, but, they're not going to lie and manipulate others out of pure malice or selfish greed like a narcissistic or sociopathic personality disorder.

Most people who were raised with abuse develop borderline behaviors and tendencies to some degree. With help and hard work they can deal with these. They want and are capable of relationships, once they've received the help they're seeking. This is the intent of most borderline behavior.... finding help.... finding someone who will listen and care.

It takes a lot of self inspection, and I mean continuously, every day- to see those behaviors in yourself and nip them before they effect another relationship or another day in a life that gets shorter and shorter with every season. But, borderlines are capable of change. Malignant narcissists and sociopaths definitely aren't capable of change and plain old narcissists aren't generally ever that motivated.

Adult survivors of child abuse often can be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Their behavior is meant to protect them, not hurt others. And unlike people on the spectrum of Narcissistic-Sociopathic disorders they want and can benefit from the care and concern of others. Many personality disordered would find offense being lumped together with malignant narcissists and sociopaths.

Connie Jean Conklin is the founder of SEASCAT. SEASCAT stands for Supportive Environment for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse & Trauma. Please check out the seascat website at http://www.seascat.org.

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Borderline Personality Disorder Abuse - What Connects Borderlines and Domestic Abuse?

What connects borderlines and abusive relationships? Answer: Boundary issues.

Individuals with a borderline personality disorder have significant issues with attachment. They cling to others...attaching themselves strongly, and then become intensely angry or hostile when they believe they are being wronged. They may believe they are being ignored or mistreated by those they depend on and attach to, and this justifies their striking out.

In abusive relationships, individuals lose a clear sense of individual boundaries. And this "boundary blur" goes well beyond two people in a loving relationship union. Instead, it is as though the concept individual doesn't exist.

The same is so with borderlines. There is no sense of the other person having much of any sacred existence other than...as they relate to the projections, demands and service needs of the borderline.

Now you might be scratching your head as you are reading this article wondering who is the borderline in the abusive relationship. Is it the perpetrator or is it the victim? Good question...

Borderlines and Abusers

When abusers are borderlines, their violence has an irrational component different from the violence of an intermittent explosive disorder [or a sociopath]. The violence may appear to spring from a more psychotic process.

As described above, their rage can be ignited by a belief that they are being mistreated or ignored that is simply not based in reality. They harbor a "story" that the person they cling to is there to fulfill their every need, irrespective of the common and customary boundaries of other human beings.

The boundary issues are central to the violence issues when abusers are borderlines. The flip side can be seen when victims are borderlines.

Borderlines and Victims

When borderlines are the declared victim in an abusive relationship, they use their feelings of being wronged to justify their acting out toward their more explicitly explosive partner. And again the acting out stems from their dysfunctional boundary issues.

Borderline personality disorders are in many respects ripe for entering into abusive relationships because the abuser's grooming of dependency and dominance fits the predisposition of their psychopathology.

If you are in an abusive relationship and are keenly aware of the control dynamics, you know, all too well, about the inherent boundary issues in domestic abuse. If there is a borderline component contributing to the abuse dynamics seek to treat this in combination with the intimate partner abuse. By doing so, you will improve your prognosis for breaking the cycle of violence.

For more information about abusive relationship help, visit http://www.domesticabusecounseling.org and claim Free Instant Access to Survivor Success eInsights. Psychologist Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps couples worldwide recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse. c Jeanne King, Ph.D. - Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

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Personality Disorders and Adult Survivors of Child Abuse

There is a problem with the term "personality disorder" - used to lump everyone with a personality disorder together with the same symptoms, like they're all the same- all malignant, dangerous and untreatable. They are not.

Narcissists make horrible parents because of their lack of empathy. And then, it's on a spectrum. Our culture fosters 'narcissism' in the general, still functional, manner found in most Americans. Most people think of themselves before others, most people want and expect money, fame, and possessions. They just fall short of actively hurting others to get money, fame, and possessions. The far end of the spectrum is the sociopath, the bad guy on so many TV shows. Survivors of child abuse were often raised by parents who are malignant narcissists or sociopaths.

People diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder are highly dramatic and emotional, but capable of having empathy. They may be too caught up in their own problems to show this empathy often, but, they're not going to lie and manipulate others out of pure malice or selfish greed like a narcissistic or sociopathic personality disorder.

Most people who were raised with abuse develop borderline behaviors and tendencies to some degree. With help and hard work they can deal with these. They want and are capable of relationships, once they've received the help they're seeking. This is the intent of most borderline behavior.... finding help.... finding someone who will listen and care.

It takes a lot of self inspection, and I mean continuously, every day- to see those behaviors in yourself and nip them before they effect another relationship or another day in a life that gets shorter and shorter with every season. But, borderlines are capable of change. Malignant narcissists and sociopaths definitely aren't capable of change and plain old narcissists aren't generally ever that motivated.

Adult survivors of child abuse often can be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Their behavior is meant to protect them, not hurt others. And unlike people on the spectrum of Narcissistic-Sociopathic disorders they want and can benefit from the care and concern of others. Many personality disordered would find offense being lumped together with malignant narcissists and sociopaths.

Connie Jean Conklin is the founder of SEASCAT. SEASCAT stands for Supportive Environment for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse & Trauma. Please check out the seascat website at http://www.seascat.org.

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Borderline Personality Disorder Abuse - What Connects Borderlines and Domestic Abuse?

What connects borderlines and abusive relationships? Answer: Boundary issues.

Individuals with a borderline personality disorder have significant issues with attachment. They cling to others...attaching themselves strongly, and then become intensely angry or hostile when they believe they are being wronged. They may believe they are being ignored or mistreated by those they depend on and attach to, and this justifies their striking out.

In abusive relationships, individuals lose a clear sense of individual boundaries. And this "boundary blur" goes well beyond two people in a loving relationship union. Instead, it is as though the concept individual doesn't exist.

The same is so with borderlines. There is no sense of the other person having much of any sacred existence other than...as they relate to the projections, demands and service needs of the borderline.

Now you might be scratching your head as you are reading this article wondering who is the borderline in the abusive relationship. Is it the perpetrator or is it the victim? Good question...

Borderlines and Abusers

When abusers are borderlines, their violence has an irrational component different from the violence of an intermittent explosive disorder [or a sociopath]. The violence may appear to spring from a more psychotic process.

As described above, their rage can be ignited by a belief that they are being mistreated or ignored that is simply not based in reality. They harbor a "story" that the person they cling to is there to fulfill their every need, irrespective of the common and customary boundaries of other human beings.

The boundary issues are central to the violence issues when abusers are borderlines. The flip side can be seen when victims are borderlines.

Borderlines and Victims

When borderlines are the declared victim in an abusive relationship, they use their feelings of being wronged to justify their acting out toward their more explicitly explosive partner. And again the acting out stems from their dysfunctional boundary issues.

Borderline personality disorders are in many respects ripe for entering into abusive relationships because the abuser's grooming of dependency and dominance fits the predisposition of their psychopathology.

If you are in an abusive relationship and are keenly aware of the control dynamics, you know, all too well, about the inherent boundary issues in domestic abuse. If there is a borderline component contributing to the abuse dynamics seek to treat this in combination with the intimate partner abuse. By doing so, you will improve your prognosis for breaking the cycle of violence.

For more information about abusive relationship help, visit http://www.domesticabusecounseling.org and claim Free Instant Access to Survivor Success eInsights. Psychologist Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps couples worldwide recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse. c Jeanne King, Ph.D. - Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

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Borderline Personality Disorder Abuse - What Connects Borderlines and Domestic Abuse?

What connects borderlines and abusive relationships? Answer: Boundary issues.

Individuals with a borderline personality disorder have significant issues with attachment. They cling to others...attaching themselves strongly, and then become intensely angry or hostile when they believe they are being wronged. They may believe they are being ignored or mistreated by those they depend on and attach to, and this justifies their striking out.

In abusive relationships, individuals lose a clear sense of individual boundaries. And this "boundary blur" goes well beyond two people in a loving relationship union. Instead, it is as though the concept individual doesn't exist.

The same is so with borderlines. There is no sense of the other person having much of any sacred existence other than...as they relate to the projections, demands and service needs of the borderline.

Now you might be scratching your head as you are reading this article wondering who is the borderline in the abusive relationship. Is it the perpetrator or is it the victim? Good question...

Borderlines and Abusers

When abusers are borderlines, their violence has an irrational component different from the violence of an intermittent explosive disorder [or a sociopath]. The violence may appear to spring from a more psychotic process.

As described above, their rage can be ignited by a belief that they are being mistreated or ignored that is simply not based in reality. They harbor a "story" that the person they cling to is there to fulfill their every need, irrespective of the common and customary boundaries of other human beings.

The boundary issues are central to the violence issues when abusers are borderlines. The flip side can be seen when victims are borderlines.

Borderlines and Victims

When borderlines are the declared victim in an abusive relationship, they use their feelings of being wronged to justify their acting out toward their more explicitly explosive partner. And again the acting out stems from their dysfunctional boundary issues.

Borderline personality disorders are in many respects ripe for entering into abusive relationships because the abuser's grooming of dependency and dominance fits the predisposition of their psychopathology.

If you are in an abusive relationship and are keenly aware of the control dynamics, you know, all too well, about the inherent boundary issues in domestic abuse. If there is a borderline component contributing to the abuse dynamics seek to treat this in combination with the intimate partner abuse. By doing so, you will improve your prognosis for breaking the cycle of violence.

For more information about abusive relationship help, visit http://www.domesticabusecounseling.org and claim Free Instant Access to Survivor Success eInsights. Psychologist Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps couples worldwide recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse. c Jeanne King, Ph.D. - Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention

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